Since this year was kind of a big birthday (30! Aahhhhh. Yes, I have a gray hairs to prove it and look close you’ll see my wrinkles), I have been self-reflecting a bit. Who I was back in the day… who I am now… who I want to be. I was thinking how cool it would be to write yourself letters now and give them to yourself back then (all right I stole this idea from sister)? What would I tell myself ten years ago? Twenty? Well here you go.
Dear 10-year-old self,
Oh you cute, long-haired, bushy-eyebrowed girl! Listen to your sisters and cut your hair. Don’t wait four more years, please. But more importantly, bottle up that confidence of yours and keep it somewhere safe. Keep that “it’s not hard being a princess*” attitude and love, love, love yourself forever. You are going to have a wonderful life. People around you love you for YOU. Let yourself grow out of that shyness and get ready to take on the world! There is a plan for you. Oh, and keep writing in that journal.
Dear 16-year-old self,
You can’t figure out life completely, so don’t try too hard. Remember there is a plan and you have a choice to be happy. Happy attracts happy. Light attracts light. Lift your chin up and LAUGH more. Memorize some jokes or something and tell them to yourself when that dark, gloomy monster of self-doubt comes knocking at the door. Hold on tight to the truths you know-you are a daughter of Heavenly Father who loves you! Never let anyone tell you different or that you are not good enough. Don’t waste energy beating yourself up! Stop stop stop.
It’s ok, you are kind of intense sometimes. So, take a big dose of chill and relax. Quit rushing around when you’re in a hurry. It drives people crazy. 🙂
You are smart and will get through chemistry. Yes, you will eventually go on a date, no worries hon. But remember you don’t have to hold a boy’s hand just because he grabs it. Oh and that cute “bread boy?” Yeah, give him a call. He does totally like you. It’s worth getting over your phone-phobia and that traditional mindset that guys should call you first. He won’t. So call him.
Get a real straightener. Take a writing class. Or two. Or many. Keep playing the piano. Quit reading Jack Weyland and quit throwing up your food.
Dear 19-year-old self,
Woohoo! You’re in college, baby! You will have some crazy fun times and have some super opportunities, so hang in there. Keep taking pictures! You will never regret more girl nights with your roomies and Craigo’s Pizza. Take some special ed classes. You have a knack with kids so utilize that gift. And geez! Take a break from staying at the library until it closes. Go swing dancing or something. Join a yoga class. Buy tickets for the Colin Ray concert–you will regret it if you don’t. Enjoy that wrinkle-blemish-free face of yours! It ain’t gonna last forever.
Take some deep breaths. Quit worrying about what everyone and their dog thinks about you. Get out of that comfort zone of quietness and you will be grateful. Forgetting about yourself and being involved will be worth it. Join some service organizations on campus–don’t wait until you’re a senior. They are super and you will meet some awesome people. Serve, serve, serve. You will “find” yourself much quicker that way than trying so hard to be perfect. It is OKAY TO MAKE MISTAKES. Did you hear me? The Savior heals and you are good enough to be healed NOW. So let him. Don’t wait any longer. Remember there is a plan.
Ps, don’t you dare take your eyes off the parking lot while driving that suburban. It may be empty, but it still has a light post.
Dear 22-year-old self,
An LDS mission? Yes! You will LOVE it! It will be hard. But you will have fabulous experiences and meet people who will change your life forever. Hang in there, sister. Spread that light of yours. Remember thr bottle of confidence from when you were ten? USE IT! And don’t worry, that first transfer really will end and time does fly by. Call Sister Pugh to talk when you need it. (Please bring some cute clothes though, ok?) Smile!
Dear 25-year-old self,
Wedding bells! Once again sweetie, it’s really time to forget yourself. This is a must in marriage so get used to it. And yes, it’s worth every effort. This man LOVES you so bask in that love! Quit worrying about being the perfect wife and enjoy being HIS wife. He was a pretty persistent neighbor boy and didn’t give up, ya know. And you know what? He never will. He will always be there for you.
Go camping more often. Get a mountain bike. You will like going to the gym at 6am. Eventually. Take horse riding lessons from someone you are not married to. Plan fun dates. Forget about that place in Park City. Trust me, it’s lame. Use your camera more often. Don’t get the blue Dodge from Ken Garff. Put some curtains up in your kitchen, it too sparse! Be spontaneous. Remind yourself you can do hard things and tell yourself those jokes now and then. Keep that gratitude journal going. Bear your testimony more often and read your scriptures every day.
Remember there is a plan. This life is good, so enjoy the journey. The next five years will be fantastic.
*I’m told this story of when I was a wee lass: My sister had a shirt that said “It’s hard being a princess.” Well, my cute five-year-old (oh wait, Mom, how old was I?) said “It’s not hard for me!” Ha ha. Wish I really did have that kind of confidence now!